Reverend Father Asked me “Olisa, is sex important in a relationship”

Reverend Father Richard Asked me “Olisa, is sex important in a relationship”

Fr. Richard and I are pretty close and it has given me the opportunity to have a parallel relationship void of the intricacies associated with reverend father and parishioner. Most times, the relationship between Father and parishioner is built around his soutane; without a penetration to his real personality. So, their conversations, is usually around religion and issues of the church. A real friendship is most times never developed. I perceive that this is purposely done by the Father to perhaps give him more focus on the most essential - the flock - without any special preference. Well somehow, Father Richard and I contradict those rules, if there are rules, we gist like just normal people.

So if babe call me, I fit talk "I love you too dear" in front of Father Richard. Na him one day, him come ask me:

"Olisa, is sex important in a relationship?"

Na him I smile, "fada, wetin you wan use this info do"

He smiled and continued. "Yes I know it is important for many reasons in marriage. But for young people not ready for marriage, is it really important because wetin I dey see for confession no funny o"

Omo if you see as I burst laughter eh.

Him self laugh join.

I perceived the depth of his question regardless of how faint I tried to paint it with my laugh; yet I understood why he asked me. He knows I don't mince words - I can be blunt and arrogantly blunt sometimes. I knew that was why he asked me.

My response:

Father, make I no lie. Marriage or not. With the elimination of sin (mortal sin) attached to it or the 
spiritual consequence that may be incurred,
especially for the unmarried, sex in whatever sort is relationship is beautiful.

In short father, make I no even talk about married people sef.

If I get babe and we have sex, the tendency for me to bond better with her is higher than babe way we no dey do anything.

Again father, this is even heightened if I'm in that relationship because I love her and want to be with her and not the sole purpose of sex.

 Even sef father, if she lost her virginity to me, the bond go be super glue. Inshort father, if the sex is very good, the possibility for me to even have sex with her if she is in another relationship or married sef dey high o.

This is the unbridled truth Father.

Omo father, na why people way really love themselves and are sexually active will most likely keep coming for confession especially if they are in the same environment o.

He smiled, then said "I understand better now. But come o, Olisa, you never do confession for my hand. You this boy......"

"Omo fado, that one be say na everyday I go dey do confession because mehn......."

We drifted towards other issues.

Later that day, it occured to me that the Church (catholic) hasn't paid close attention to the teaching of Sex, especially to young people. Everybody just dey 'collect' up and down.

Negative influence keeps growing but I think the church is still stiff and behind using only biblical commandments and short-timed homily that poorly exaggerate these as injunctions to discourage unmarried people from sex.

The Church is either closing a blind eye and ignoring to deal with the reality of sex or they are ill-informed on how well to deal with it. Its effect on the church is very glaring; negatively glaring. Sadly, it is slipping into all crevices of the church. These, have put the church on the negative spotlight of the media in recent times.

The number of young people on a queue to receive holy communion grows thin. The queue for confession, thinner; yet sex is heightened in geometric proportions. We just dey 'collect' like say tomoro no dey.

I hope grace continues to abound becaue me sef I need am gaan.

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